Some quotes stick with you once the words echo in your ears. For me, this has been the case with Maya Angelou’s quote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
I found myself in an internal struggle with these words. I believe that things are rarely what they appear to be on the surface. That, even when we remove the masks and facades that we tend to wear as people, we are incredibly diverse and complex beings.
To state that someone can show you who they are the first time means that you are projecting the assumption that this person fully understand who they are within themselves.
Now let me ask you this, how many of you fully understand who you are in this now moment? Fully…completely…truly?
We are all on this journey of discovery. To judge and evaluate another is to limit our opportunity to know them. This is not stating that we shouldn’t set healthy boundaries as we are all finding our way.
But, to assume that people are unable to change mirrors back that we, too, are not able to shift as we learn more about ourselves. Is this the path we are choosing to walk?
I love and honor Maya Angelou and thank her for the opportunity to consider these words. I may not align with them, but I am grateful that they sparked the chance for me to look deeper within and understand why.
That is the strength in words and the very point in this post. We aren’t all going to agree and we aren’t all going to align. But, we are ever changing, ever exploring, ever shifting in our awareness. What you know and believe today will likely not be the same in five years and certainly won’t be the same in fifty years.
So yes, in my view, people can and do change ♥ often.
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I’m glad I gave my relationship a second chance. I’m glad I didn’t take the word of the internet on trust and relationships at face value. Yes, I’ve seen change, and I’ve never been happier with my decision. We are human. We can work through things. People can change for the better.
Thank you for sharing, Alyssa. This is beautiful to read. ♥
I agree with you and that quote doesn’t resonate with me. I think becoming more aware of who you are, flaws and all.. and doing the work to change what you want changed is very possible. It’s all up to that individual.