It begins with the first line…if I love something, I should set it free. In my view, if I love something it should already be free. This line would indicate that I have somehow controlled or held captive the object of my love and need to take steps to release it to validate that I own it’s love. I would offer that this isn’t love. Love is a choice between two beings in every moment. It isn’t forced or manipulated – it is simple and beautiful.
Then we move to the second line…if it comes back to me, it is mine. Uhm…no, it’s not. First, all I own in this world is the energy that I create from the experiences that I share, the rest I simply borrow until I transition. Think about it, what do we take with us when we pass on? If something was ‘mine,’ it would move on with me, but it doesn’t.
Second, I have always felt the notion that someone you love ‘is yours’ is like a two-year old with a toy screaming ‘mine, mine, mine’ every time someone comes close. No person belongs to anyone else. There is no ownership – there is choice. And, when we choose one another, the depths of love are amazing. We know that person is with us in every moment not because they have to be or because we are forcing them to be, but because they desire to be and are choosing to be.
Now, to the last line. Simply because something (or someone) chooses to move on to another experience in their life does not mean that they did not love us fully and completely in the time that we shared together. To shift our love to anger simply because someone we love is journeying onward in life may possibly indicate that we didn’t fully loved them, not the other way around.
When we love, fully and completely, we desire joy and happiness for those we give this love to – not anger that they didn’t come back to us. If our response is that the person was never truly ours, it might be a wonderful opportunity for inward reflection.
I know what many might be thinking – this is simply a phrase to help people feel better as they are waiting to see if someone or something they love is going to return to them. But, words carry energy. These phrases mean something and, as a world society, it is important that we begin to start taking a step back from them and ask what they truly mean to us.
Stop using words and phrases that don’t resonate with us and create new ones that do. Break old cycles of control that we may not even realize are there and stand upon new cycles of freedom and love.
Yours in love always ~Amber