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Afterlife Symposium Fun & Winners

It was a great time meeting so many amazing individuals at the 2018 Afterlife Symposium here in beautiful Scottsdale, AZ. A special thank you to Kathleen Malone and Colter Smith for including me in this amazing opportunity.

During the Symposium we offered an opportunity to win one of 3 Energy Healing Sessions, 2 Health Consultations or 1 Five Pack of Group Meditations for those who chose to enter. The winners were drawn at random today and have been directly notified. For those who might be curious, their tickets and a few other images from the event are included below. Thank you to all who entered – we greatly appreciate everyone’s interest.

 

 

 

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Why Do We Lie?

“In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.” 

Why are we compelled to conceal the truth with falseness? Is it love or fear that drives the decision?

I am now one of those annoying people who will not lie. I may choose not to participate in a conversation or may tell someone directly that I would prefer not to answer a question, but I will not provide a false answer to “protect” or “save” someones feelings. I do this out of love and honor for all that I am sharing my time, space and energy with – including myself.

I am the first to admit I was not always an Honest Abe. Previously, I had the perception that it was better to tell a little white lie, one that wasn’t necessarily hurting anyone, than it was to hurt someone’s feelings. After all, we all do it. In fact, we are so conditioned to it twoman-hiding-behind-maskhat we nearly desire others to lie to us to save our feelings. In many cases we would rather be told that we look nice in something than be told the truth if something doesn’t fit us well. In essence, we have created a culture where it is better to be false than to speak truth.

But, I have now come to realize that every time I was false I wasn’t only false to the person I had told the lie to, I was also false with myself. I wasn’t speaking from my heart so that I might face my experience. I was speaking from what I believed others desired me to say so that I could avoid it. In doing this, I was denying myself the opportunity to realize the true value in the exchange. Over time, that had an impact. I had missed many opportunities to grow on a soul level, and to possibly assist other in the same way. My unhealthy avoidance cycle through little lies in an effort to keep the peace ultimately prevented me from speaking my truth.

Once I took time to observe this cycle and choose to end it, this was the lesson I found:

Nothing good ever comes from a lie – big or small. If we desire something true, we have to be truthful first – both with ourselves and those around us. It all begins within. 

 

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If You Love Something…

If you love something, set it free
If it comes back to you, it’s yours
If it doesn’t, it never was

IMG_9429I have heard this saying uttered to me often in my life, as friends and family sought ways to be supportive during times of transition. I always appreciated the gesture but, to be completely honest, the phrase itself has never made much sense to me and here is why.

It begins with the first line…if I love something, I should set it free. In my view, if I love something it should already be free. This line would indicate that I have somehow controlled or held captive the object of my love and need to take steps to release it to validate that I own it’s love. I would offer that this isn’t love. Love is a choice between two beings in every moment. It isn’t forced or manipulated – it is simple and beautiful.

Then we move to the second line…if it comes back to me, it is mine. Uhm…no, it’s not. First, all I own in this world is the energy that I create from the experiences that I share, the rest I simply borrow until I transition. Think about it, what do we take with us when we pass on? If something was ‘mine,’ it would move on with me, but it doesn’t.

Second, I have always felt the notion that someone you love ‘is yours’ is like a two-year old with a toy screaming ‘mine, mine, mine’ every time someone comes close. No person belongs to anyone else. There is no ownership – there is choice. And, when we choose one another, the depths of love are amazing. We know that person is with us in every moment not because they have to be or because we are forcing them to be, but because they desire to be and are choosing to be.

Now, to the last line. Simply because something (or someone) chooses to move on to another experience in their life does not mean that they did not love us fully and completely in the time that we shared together. To shift our love to anger simply because someone we love is journeying onward in life may possibly indicate that we didn’t fully loved them, not the other way around.

When we love, fully and completely, we desire joy and happiness for those we give this love to – not anger that they didn’t come back to us. If our response is that the person was never truly ours, it might be a wonderful opportunity for inward reflection.

I know what many might be thinking – this is simply a phrase to help people feel better as they are waiting to see if someone or something they love is going to return to them. But, words carry energy. These phrases mean something and, as a world society, it is important that we begin to start taking a step back from them and ask what they truly mean to us.

Stop using words and phrases that don’t resonate with us and create new ones that do. Break old cycles of control that we may not even realize are there and stand upon new cycles of freedom and love.

Yours in love always ~Amber