Why is it so challenging to quiet the mind when it comes to matters of the heart? Sometimes, no matter what tools we leverage, navigating the chatter in our head to connect with and hear our heart feels like a futile effort. What can we do when we are faced with this challenge?
Generally, it is our fear of loss that ignites when we are faced with potential change that involves the heart. This causes our mind to create plans for how to navigate the change and wonder what will come next. It is as though a piece of us is dying and, for most of us, we don’t desire to die in any sense.
What do we do to return to our heart?
What I have found to be most beneficial is to actively choose to look at the circumstance as expansion and not death. What do I mean?
Think of it like adding a room on to your house. When we make the decision that our home could use more space, we also know that we must be willing to navigate through the discomfort of the construction in order to enjoy the beautiful new space. We don’t look at the demolition of a portion of our home for the addition as death of the space. Instead, we see it for what it is – building onto something we love because there is more that might be done with the space.
This is how I view matters of my eternal home – my heart. It is an opportunity for me to expand the divine love within – adding room after room with each experience. When the chatter of my mind inevitably arises, I remind myself that any discomfort I am feeling is simply the building process – soon the construction will be complete and I will have a beautiful new space to add to my experience.
With love ~Amber
This discussion came up after watching a show where one of the characters had a heartfelt monologue about how fearing death is what makes life worth living. His point was that death gave life value. Fearing the loss of life made it worth something.
While I understood the point of the scene and do agree in some ways, I guess I look at this a bit differently.
I don’t fear death, yet I still find life incredibly valuable and embrace every single second of it fully and completely. I do this because I truly love life. I love the way the sun and breeze feels. I love the way it feels to laugh with my friends and family. I love the opportunities that are presented to me for personal growth and development. I am grateful for every moment and recognize it as the gift that it is.
In my view, my life has value because it is filled with love – not because I fear its end. If I have lived each moment fully, then in the end I will have many beautiful memories to take with me. What is there to fear in this?
EMBRACE LIFE – LIVE IT FULLY.
Whether it is death that gives it meaning for you or love that drives you forward…live while the gift of life is yours.
Have you ever had visions of doing something that you haven’t seen done before? What keeps you from doing it? What stops that vision from transcending your dreams and entering into your reality?
For most of us, it’s fear.
You see…in order to do something that’s never been done before, we must be willing to do something that’s never been done before.
This means that we must be willing to stand out, be different and allow ourselves to navigate through all doubts (even those given to us by those around us) to bring that vision into reality. Very few world shaping inventors/individuals had everyone around them saying, “Wow, that’s a fantastic idea!” And, if you read their stories, most doubted themselves and their ability to bring forward their visions during the creative process.
What allowed these amazing people to move forward?
Their dedication to their vision transcended their doubt. Their passion and love for their purpose allowed them to strive forward through each setback. And, their belief in their ability to do something that had never been done before brought each creation into reality. They listened to the comments of those around them, but took it as feedback toward their creations – not reasons to stop their momentum.
Do you feel called to positively contribute to the world by doing something that’s never been done before? Don’t give permission for fear to hold you back. Move beyond doubt. Allow yourself to be creative in your own, unique way and bring that unique spark to the world.
As you embark upon 2017, allow each action that you take script the story you desire to share with the world.
Lead by action and example more than words.
Commit to revolutionize YOUR world through your interactions and allow others to witness all that’s possible as they see your life’s story unfold.
Some quotes stick with you once the words echo in your ears. For me, this has been the case with Maya Angelou’s quote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
I found myself in an internal struggle with these words. I believe that things are rarely what they appear to be on the surface. That, even when we remove the masks and facades that we tend to wear as people, we are incredibly diverse and complex beings.
To state that someone can show you who they are the first time means that you are projecting the assumption that this person fully understand who they are within themselves.
Now let me ask you this, how many of you fully understand who you are in this now moment? Fully…completely…truly?
We are all on this journey of discovery. To judge and evaluate another is to limit our opportunity to know them. This is not stating that we shouldn’t set healthy boundaries as we are all finding our way.
But, to assume that people are unable to change mirrors back that we, too, are not able to shift as we learn more about ourselves. Is this the path we are choosing to walk?
I love and honor Maya Angelou and thank her for the opportunity to consider these words. I may not align with them, but I am grateful that they sparked the chance for me to look deeper within and understand why.
That is the strength in words and the very point in this post. We aren’t all going to agree and we aren’t all going to align. But, we are ever changing, ever exploring, ever shifting in our awareness. What you know and believe today will likely not be the same in five years and certainly won’t be the same in fifty years.
So yes, in my view, people can and do change ♥ often.